And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:3,4)
"God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks to us in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: It is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world." (C. S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain, 1940).
Both Betty and I have had our experiences with pain, Betty more so than I. She has had three accidents (car, moped and horse), acute appendicitis surgery and a bout of bacteria infection after the surgery. The horse riding accident was incredibly painful.
I have had several surgeries (knee, shoulder, hernia) and my most recent one from which I am still recovering. The most painful surgery was my shoulder, but the most painful recovery was the hernia surgery.
Much of our pain has been 'controllable' - by that I mean we have been able to emotionally stay on 'top' of our pain. However, we have both experienced pain that was able to get on 'top' of us, where you feel out of control because of the pain.
We have also experienced the pain of lost loved ones. Both of our parents are gone. Betty experienced more pain with the death of her mother who died of cancer when Betty was 20. Betty was the one who was able to stay home with her mother and nursed her during those last months so she experienced the pain of her mother's death perhaps more than anyone else - even though it was extremely hard on the whole family.
We both firmly believe the Revelation scripture that promises a future with no pain and we're looking forward to it. However, we live now in a fallen world where pain - physical, emotional and spiritual - is still a very real part of our lives and the lives of those we love.
We also believe that pain can be redemptive. It certainly was in Jesus' life for the pain he endured leads to our salvation and relationship with God. Sometimes it's hard to see how our own pain can be redemptive, especially when we're still in the midst of our pain.
If C. S. Lewis was right about God shouting in our pain, perhaps we just need to open our spiritual eyes to see and ears to hear. Although right now I would be happy to have a little more of God's whispering.